Relationship and Date Coaching Path to Happiness and True Love

Do you know what you want, but can’t seem to meet the person of your dreams?
Are you ready to take your relationship to the next level?
Do you need to start over?

Dating and creating a relationship is supposed to fun, a time to meet people, learn about you and learn about others; a time of excitement, going new places and experiencing new things.

The Internet has transformed the dating experience and is become one of the predominant ways to connect with people. I hear from singles of all ages, that the Internet has created both challenges and opportunities in meeting people. Trying to get to know someone on the basis of a personal profile, picture and checklist of interests is both good and bad. There’s information at your fingertips, staring at you from your computer screen. The big questions are: Are they really who they say they are? What about the elusive “chemistry” thing that is so important in a relationship? Can you really gauge that from computer?

For men and women over 50, I hear that the Internet has become the only way they know how to meet people to date. They don’t feel comfortable going to bars, don’t have the courage to approach someone in the produce isle at the grocery, and don’t want to approach someone they work with, if they are still working! So they keep trying month after month, new dating site after dating site, to meet the kind of individual they want to see more than once. So often, after a first face-to face-encounter they express frustration, disappointment and sometimes resentment! I hear, “Nice person, but it’s not going to work.” Followed by “Why me? Why am I still alone?”

Why is that? Because it is hard to “get a sense of someone” from a computer screen and until you have that first phone call or first meeting, you can’t make a decision. In addition, I think men and women believe the dating stakes are high and see dating as a “do or die”, now or never experience. They become so focused on the outcome, which is, meeting the person they want to marry or pair up with forever, that the actual dating experience becomes the dating nightmare. The date becomes more like a “job interview” where you are being “evaluated and grilled” and mental check marks are being made to determine if you pass or fail to the next round. Who wouldn’t feel frustrated and a bit cynical about dating if this is what each dating encounter was like! It’s time to learn new dating skills. Yes, dating can still be fun; you can meet the love of your life!

Yes, it’s also time to learn new relationship skills. Generally, getting into a relationship is the real fun part. Maintaining it adds new dimensions. If you stay with someone long enough, your relationships will go through predictable stages. Each stage has unique challenges and joys, heartaches and jubilations. It’s easy to get through the fun times, the times that make your heart pound and sing, but it can be incredibly challenging to make it through the hard times, the times that test your bond and commitment. You know what I’m talking about! They are times when trust has been breached, hurts run deep and intimacy and closeness disappear. These are the times that take your relationship to the limit and may even create an irrevocable bond. Ending relationships, marriages or long term commitments pose new challenges.

There are also occasions upon which you simply want to take your relationship to the next level. Good relationships can always get better! Dealing with fears and blocks can open doors to greater intimacy and closeness. Creating new opportunity for adventure and exploration can deepen commitment.